Let's face it - sometimes life deals us the difficult cards.

And sometimes, for some unknown reason the weeks roll on and the cards keep falling, along with our self esteem and serotonin levels.

It's at these times of relentless bad luck that we need love, support and empathy from those we love. Not a hard yakka talking to about not trying hard enough, or not getting "over it" quickly enough. What we need is a kind word, an empathetic ear, dare I say....a shoulder!

I've read some great articles recently about what to say and what NOT to say to someone who is distressed or depressed. They're well worth reading, because when things are going well for us it's often easy to forget that others around us may be going through a tough time.

The articles are a reminder to be aware and perceptive to the needs of others. And when required, show respect and empathy for the misfortune and or depression someone else may be experiencing. A little understanding can go a long way in easing the overwhelming anxiety and distress that may come as the result of a relationship breakdown, a death, a loss of income or an inability to find new work etc. And a culmination of these scenarios can easily tip the toughest of people over the edge if a little kindness isn't shone their way when they need it most.

So take the time to firstly read what NOT to say to those in distress:
http://depression.about.com/od/factsheets/tp/What-Not-To-Say-To-Someone-Who-Is-Depressed.htm

and then take the time to read the positives - there are some great resources available that discuss how we can comfort others experiencing distress or depression:
http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/how-talk-someone-you-love-when-they-are-depressed

https://ca.shine.yahoo.com/blogs/healthy-living/friend-depressed-190200474.html

And if you're still stuck for how to offer support, the art of silence is sometimes the best response - just being with someone and really listening can be incredibly healing. Here's a great quote from Rachel Naomi Remen's book, Kitchen Table Wisdom:

"I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. And especially if it’s given from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but receive them. Just take them in. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it."

Acknowledgement, an empathetic ear and a kind word are often all it takes to lift the mood of another. What greater gift could you possibly give!!

Why not use the month of September to actively show awareness and kindness to your community...there's no greater time with September 10 being World Suicide Prevention Day. 
Get involved by joining a walk or organising a walk in your local community.

Valuable resources available to help when times are tough:
https://www.lifeline.org.au/Get-Help/Self-Help-Tools/Self-Help-Tools
http://www.beyondblue.org.au/
http://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/